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Part II: How to be a gentleman when it comes to dating

by richard 30. April 2016 07:00

#11. Here are a couple of things to not do when in conversation:

#11.1. Do not slouch - sit up straight

#11.2. Do not play with your food

#11.3. Do not talk and eat at the same time!

#11.4. Don’t flaunt being wealthy, or be derogatory about people who are.

#12. Maintain eye contact

If you spend the night staring at your shoe, the tablecloth or the dinner plate, you are not going to show your date that all important self confidence. So sit upright, maintain eye contact (not in a freakish staring way) and show confidence.

Good eye contact is very important, especially when you are listening to her as it lets her know that you are paying attention.

#13. Put your mobile phone away!

Scrolling on your mobile is a sure fire way to let her know that you are not paying attention. So leave the phone in your pocket and put it on silent.

#14. Be prepared to pay for you and your date’s meal

There is confusion about this, but a gentleman will always pay.  If she offers to pay, kindly refuse. Remind her that you are on a date and it is your pleasure to take the bill. Never dwell on the fact that you are paying the bill for both of you.

#15. Offer your arm when walking with your date

Offer your arm to assist her especially if she is walking over uneven ground, or even soft grass in high heels when she is going to be unstable. Although it is intimate, it is perfectly acceptable and very respectful. Always walk alongside a woman when going downstairs and not behind her (unless of course the stairs are too narrow).

#16. Help her with her coat

If she has removed her coat in the bar or restaurant, help her put her coat on when you leave.  To do this hold the coat up by the neck, then offer her one side, so she can place her hands in the sleeve, then the other side.  Once her arms are in left the collar of the coat to her neckline.

#17. If you are walking offer your coat

If you are walking to/from the restaurant/venue, then offer your coat either as something to keep the rain off, or in order to keep warm if it becomes chilly at the end of the evening.

#18. Know the difference between confidence and cockiness.

Basically confidence is good, cockiness is bad! If there was ever a fine line this would be it! Cockiness is really showing off and no-one likes someone who does that, so don't tell her how much money you have in the bank, or how huge your house is. These are both cockiness.  Confidence is all about showing you are confident, so stand tall with your shoulders back, talk confidently and show that you are happy in your own body.

#19. Gauge her comfort level and act accordingly

One of the most difficult things to do, but probably the most rewarding is to be able to “read” the woman. Picking up on non-verbal clues, such as body language, subtle facial expressions, and hand gestures you will know what to do in difficult situations.

It will tell you if you should or shouldn't go for a kiss, should or shouldn't go for somewhere after dinner etc.

#20. Let your date know how much fun you had and offer a second date

You should let your date know your enjoyed meeting up and if you would like to meet up again you should be honest and let her know that. That is after all, flattery and women love being made to feel wanted.  So don't be shy and tell her you would like to see her again (if you do).

If in doubt do not go for a kiss at the end of your date and NEVER ever suggest you go round hers.

At the end of the date, if you haven't been able to read really strong signals that she likes you then you should act cautiously. A quick kiss on each cheek and then head off in respective directions. If you do decide to walk her home, then this is only for her safety, nothing else!  Once you are at hers, a kiss on each cheek would be nice and then leave.  NEVER invite yourself in.


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