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The early warning signs in a relationship

by richard 21. May 2016 07:00

When you first start a relationship you get wrapped up in the emotion, in the excitement and the joy of being with someone. But this can sometimes cloud your judgement as to whether things are working or not.  Here are just a few things to look out for

#1. They do not commit on a date to meet up

#2. They do not return phone calls or emails

#3. They cancel last minute

#4. They stand you up

These first four should be very good warning indicators. If you are in a relationship that is working you are excited about meeting up, in fact in most cases you can’t wait for the next date. So if they are reluctant to go on that next date, by not arranging one or cancelling last minute it should be a clear indicator that things just aren't right. If this happens you should be cautious.

#5. They seem eager to meet up

#6. They can’t stop texting, calling, emailing you

On the other hand these two examples are almost too much. You don't want to feel like the other person is dropping everything in their life for you. In the early days it is very important that you have your own space and don’t stop everything in your life for them.

#7. They seem distant

If they seem distant when you meet up.  Like they are thinking about something else, they don’t really follow the conversation and they don’t look like they want to be there. Then be very cautious of the relationship. Now there could only be one possible reason for this, other than of course they are not that interested which is they could have some big personal issues going on at home. So try and establish if that is the case and almost be upfront about it. But at the end of the day if they can’t provide a valid reason and things don’t improve once you have spoken then its probably time to end things.

#8. They seem unwilling to show you to friends/family

When we meet someone we really like, we want to show them off. We want to say to friends and family “I have met someone really great and here she/he is”.  So not wanting to take you to see their friends or family and get together's is a worrying sign as it will make you feel excluded. So be honest and up front and say am I not good enough for you to introduce me to your friends and family.

#9. You appear to have very different views on things

It might seem like a minor thing when you first meet, but if you have some very different views on major things in life, it could cause big issues later on.  For example lets say that one of you is really keen on marriage, while the other really doesn't want to get married. What are you going to do a few years down the line?

 This is really where internet dating is such a great idea, you see in your profile you select such things as if you want children, if you are religious etc etc. Then when you run searches you can select say “I only want to meet people who don't want kids”, so in a way you know you are compatible on these big ticket items before you even start to date.  How great it that eh!

 

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It has been a long time since I dated before, how does it work again?

by richard 14. May 2016 07:00

Well really the dating way to date hasn't changed, basically its boy meets girl, both boy and girl like each other they start to date.  Fairly simple eh!  But really its the ways in which boy meets girl that has changed.

But before we get into that, if you have just finished in a long term relationship you need to give yourself time to get over it. It can be almost frightening to be single again, you have relied for so long on another person to meet certain emotional, practical and financial needs.

But now your on your own it is time to look at how liberating it can be and also you come to realise that you are able to deal with life on your own. You do have the skills, the knowledge and the know-how to cope, you can take this into your next relationship.  You are ready to date again when you are motivated to share your life with someone special, as opposed to feeling like you need someone to rescue you.

So what might have changed since you were last dating?

#1. Welcome to online dating

Well depending on how long your relationship lasted, online dating might not have been around previously, or if it was you might not have used it.  Well it is here now! So why not give it a go?  There are some steps you will want to take to make sure you join the right site.  Check out the guide we wrote on that HERE.

#2. Build self confidence

We have talked about self confidence a great deal on this blog. Basically you need self confidence and self esteem in order to be attractive to the opposite sex.  Breaking up from a long term relationship, especially if it wasn't your choice can put a serious dent in your self-esteem.

You really need to build your self-esteem by telling yourself that the break up wasn't your fault, it really isn't anybody's fault its just that sometimes things aren't meant to be. So you need to remember that you have some great qualities that another person will love, move on and find love again.

#3. Appearance

When your in a long-term relationship, your appearance can suffer. You may wear jeans that are past their best since you have met the person of your dreams and you no longer need to impress, same goes for 4 year old shirts and those shoes that could do with a polish. Plus 

women tend to not apply make up so regularly.

After a break up, you literally need to smarten up! Get some new clothes in the wardrobe, put the make-up on, polish those shoes and feel good about yourself. Dress to impress. Show you care about the way you look.

#4. Contemplating a physical relationship with someone new.

This can be very daunting as for a long time you will have been with the same person in a physical relationship.  Nerves are bound to be there.  But you will naturally overcome this and once you get excited about a new relationship you will wonder why you were ever worried in the first place.

#5. The biological clock

Yes the biological clock will have moved on somewhat, but don’t stress about it. There is nothing you can do about that fact. We believe the media does overplay the difficulty in having a baby later on in life. Some people let this fear guide their decisions about relationships.  But nobody likes to think of themselves as just baby making machines, do they? So try to concentrate on the way that your partner makes you feel, rather than whether they can produce offspring as soon as possible.

#6. Children

You may of course have children now, or you may well be meeting other people who have children. Don’t let that worry you. You are still dating the adult in the relationship, not the children. For the first few dates, just make it you and them and leave the children out of it. As you get to know one another more, you can then think about introducing the children to your new partner.

What is slightly more of a challenge is if you don't have kids but the person you have just met does. Then you need to consider if you want to be part of that family unit. Going from not being a parent to suddenly becoming one can be very daunting, so think carefully.

#7. Maintaining the relationship

Some people worry that they are just not good at being in a relationship.  Now think back to that last relationship. Did you have fun times? Almost certainly you did. Therefore you can’t say you are no good at relationships. Don’t dwell on the past look forward to the future. Get out there meet someone great and move on!

 

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Texting, the rules you should never break!

by richard 7. May 2016 07:00

So never give out your personal number until you feel very comfortable with them. Most likely you will have been on a few dates and you are starting to feel like the relationship is moving in the right direction.

Once you have given out that number you will probably start texting a lot. Now you need to remember the following rules around texts!

Drunk Texting

Avoid texting while under the influence of alcohol at all costs! Its only going to end in disaster.  Let them know beforehand that your going out and your going to have a few to drink. Then don't text again until the morning, once you have had the fry up and are over the hangover.

Txting lk ths

There is really no need for shorthand like this any more. The majority of phone contracts these days don’t even come with a text “limit” plus you can use whatsapp which is an instant messenger service that doesn't even use up your text limit. So there is no reason to shorten you texts.

The break up text

Are you really so shallow that you have to break up over a text message? Yes picking up the phone to call them to tell them is not great, but surely its better than a text message and its better to be the one calling than the one receiving.

Texting when there is no reply

If you have tried texting a couple of times and you haven’t had a reply, even when adding “let me know” or “text me” to the end, its time to step away right?  It looks like they are not interested so you shouldn't be either!

Using way too many smiley’s

A well placed smiley or an effective wink can be great to liven up a text, but over-do it and you will look like a 13 year old who has just discovered instant messaging.  Not a good look!

Sexting

There is nothing smart about sending sexy pictures of yourself naked, you just don't know what the other person might do with them, especially in the event of a break up! We don’t think this is 

ever a wise more.  Neither is explicitly stating what you want to do to them.  Leave all that for when your together and your relationship advances to the bedroom.

Over-texting

You don’t need to know what they are up to every second of the day and neither do you need to tell them what you are up to every second of the day! So just give it at least 5 minutes before you send another text.

The last minute cop out text

We have all received a text like that. Now as the sender do you really think they are going to believe you when they read your cop out text? Chances are they aren't so why even send it? Tell the truth, be honest, they will thank you for it in the long run.

The “Oops I didn't mean to send that text” text, when it goes to the wrong person.

If you do this on a purpose its childish, silly and inconsiderate.  If you do it my mistake then thats not so bad, but take a minute to check your text and to make sure you don’t make this error.

 

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Part II: How to be a gentleman when it comes to dating

by richard 30. April 2016 07:00

#11. Here are a couple of things to not do when in conversation:

#11.1. Do not slouch - sit up straight

#11.2. Do not play with your food

#11.3. Do not talk and eat at the same time!

#11.4. Don’t flaunt being wealthy, or be derogatory about people who are.

#12. Maintain eye contact

If you spend the night staring at your shoe, the tablecloth or the dinner plate, you are not going to show your date that all important self confidence. So sit upright, maintain eye contact (not in a freakish staring way) and show confidence.

Good eye contact is very important, especially when you are listening to her as it lets her know that you are paying attention.

#13. Put your mobile phone away!

Scrolling on your mobile is a sure fire way to let her know that you are not paying attention. So leave the phone in your pocket and put it on silent.

#14. Be prepared to pay for you and your date’s meal

There is confusion about this, but a gentleman will always pay.  If she offers to pay, kindly refuse. Remind her that you are on a date and it is your pleasure to take the bill. Never dwell on the fact that you are paying the bill for both of you.

#15. Offer your arm when walking with your date

Offer your arm to assist her especially if she is walking over uneven ground, or even soft grass in high heels when she is going to be unstable. Although it is intimate, it is perfectly acceptable and very respectful. Always walk alongside a woman when going downstairs and not behind her (unless of course the stairs are too narrow).

#16. Help her with her coat

If she has removed her coat in the bar or restaurant, help her put her coat on when you leave.  To do this hold the coat up by the neck, then offer her one side, so she can place her hands in the sleeve, then the other side.  Once her arms are in left the collar of the coat to her neckline.

#17. If you are walking offer your coat

If you are walking to/from the restaurant/venue, then offer your coat either as something to keep the rain off, or in order to keep warm if it becomes chilly at the end of the evening.

#18. Know the difference between confidence and cockiness.

Basically confidence is good, cockiness is bad! If there was ever a fine line this would be it! Cockiness is really showing off and no-one likes someone who does that, so don't tell her how much money you have in the bank, or how huge your house is. These are both cockiness.  Confidence is all about showing you are confident, so stand tall with your shoulders back, talk confidently and show that you are happy in your own body.

#19. Gauge her comfort level and act accordingly

One of the most difficult things to do, but probably the most rewarding is to be able to “read” the woman. Picking up on non-verbal clues, such as body language, subtle facial expressions, and hand gestures you will know what to do in difficult situations.

It will tell you if you should or shouldn't go for a kiss, should or shouldn't go for somewhere after dinner etc.

#20. Let your date know how much fun you had and offer a second date

You should let your date know your enjoyed meeting up and if you would like to meet up again you should be honest and let her know that. That is after all, flattery and women love being made to feel wanted.  So don't be shy and tell her you would like to see her again (if you do).

If in doubt do not go for a kiss at the end of your date and NEVER ever suggest you go round hers.

At the end of the date, if you haven't been able to read really strong signals that she likes you then you should act cautiously. A quick kiss on each cheek and then head off in respective directions. If you do decide to walk her home, then this is only for her safety, nothing else!  Once you are at hers, a kiss on each cheek would be nice and then leave.  NEVER invite yourself in.

 

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Part I: How to be a gentlemen when it comes to dating

by richard 23. April 2016 07:00

#1. Understanding that equality doesn't mean throwing your manners and good taste out of the window.

Is the dating game is all about captivating one another, you need to impress. Just like a male peacock shows his beautiful fan of colours, as a man you need to be a gentleman in order to show of yours. We can honestly say the number of emails and messages we receive from women saying “are there any gentlemen left out there” is growing by the day!

So by even following a few of these simple rules you are going to do better than 80% of the men out there.

#2. Make reservations

Think about planning ahead. Will you be going for a meal? Then do some research online and book a restaurant. Will you be stopping off for a drink? Again do some research and find somewhere quiet with atmosphere. Your date will be expecting you (the male) to have all the ideas so plan ahead so you don't get stuck!

#3. Be on time

Its always good to be on time for a meeting and a date should not be an exception to the rule. Don’t let her wait alone, be there ahead of time.

If you are going to be late and it is due to a very good reason (it has to be a very very good reason) then phone ahead of time and let her know. She may not wait long especially if she has been stood up in the past.

#4. Walk to the door to pick her up

If you are picking her up from her house, walk to the door to pick he up, don’t sit in the car and text “I'm outside”!

#5. Compliment your date

Women love reassurance, especially when it comes to their appearance. So offer a complement on the way they look. Do not use cliches. Just keep it light and pick out a feature that you really like (don’t make that chests or bums).  You could pick up on their outfit, their shoes, their eyes, or just one overall comment such as “you look lovely this evening”.

Never insult your date and do not criticise.  If you are someone who can criticise then make a mental note to NO do this when you meet up.  Its a sure fire way to not get a second date. 

Sarcasm can also be a major problem. Sometimes a joke can be taken as sarcasm so be careful there as well.

#6. Open doors for your date

This is chivalry in its most basic form and is one of the easiest things to get right! When walking out of any door, make sure you hold the door open and let her walk out first. This will make your date feel special and respected. Going out of the door first could signal to her that you are a selfish person.

#7. Help your date to her chair before you sit down

Pull out the chair for your date and then let her sit down first. This will show her that you care about her interests before your own. It is the ultimate gesture in being a gentleman and will go down very well. It is a big tick in the manners box.

#8. When ordering she goes first

We are not sure why and it is ultra old fashioned, but when you are ordering the lady should always order first. It shows manners and it is very easy to get right.

#9. When walking together, you walk closest to the road

Now we do know the reason for this, in early times when the streets were dirty and uneven, there would often be puddles of dirty water at the edges of the road. Horse drawn carriages would then ride through this and splash the pavement. In order to avoid the women getting wet, men would walk by the roadside.

It is still good practise to adopt this today. Again its an easy one to get right and shows her that you have great manners.

#10. Ask questions about your date

Women will always be impressed if you listen (just re-read that you need to listen) to their conversations and then ask questions which acknowledge that you have listened. Its a simple procedure, you listen (see the importance of that word), take in what she has said and then follow on the conversation, you would be amazed at how many men get this wrong! It is really good to show your date that you are a good listener.

Its also good if you can keep a conversation going, so prior to the date you might want to think about 5 or 6 things that will be good conversation starters. You can take a sneak peak that these in the toilets or at the bar when getting drinks. Again make them as relevant to her as possible, to do this you might want to go back and re-read her profile to spot anything in there that shows what she is passionate about.

 

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What to wear on a date? A guide for men

by richard 16. April 2016 07:00

There are thousands of articles on the internet about this topic. But we really want to keep things simple. Now the first thing is that I can’t say always wear this or that, the reason being that everyone and every date is different. That said I can offer you a few words of wisdom that relate to every situation:

#1. What you wear is not a big deal

What you wear is not a big deal if you are both looking for a long term relationship.  It is a slightly bigger deal if you are looking for a casual, adult relationship.  What should matter if you are looking for long-term is personality over looks.

For example imagine you met someone who dressed really well, had the perfect body and was really well groomed, but there personality was awful. Most of the time they were grumpy, didn't have much to say and swore a great deal. Now imagine someone who is “ok” looking, not your ideal but also not ugly.  They however are fun to be around, hold a good conversation, are funny and polite. Which would you rather date?

#2. If fashion and clothing is important to you then do dress well

Of course if fashion and dressing in fashionable clothes is important to you, then of course you should go ahead and do that. I mean it wouldn't make sense if you went to dinner in “last” seasons fashion wearing a hoodie and trainers if you then spoke about being into fashion, wearing the “latest” fashions and spending a great deal on clothes.

#3. Wear something you are comfortable in and makes you feel confident

Make sure you wear something comfortable and makes you feel confident. We have said many times that having confidence when you date is really important. You are going to get that confidence if you dress comfortably.

There is a good chance that this means it is probably going to be an outfit you have worn before, which is fine. Whatever you do, don’t go out on your first date in a bright pink, loud jumper, if you have never worn one before.

#4. Match the level of smartness to the venue you are meeting at.

If you are heading to a Gordon Ramsay restaurant in London, don't wear your jogging bottoms. Likewise, if your going to a casual pub, you don't need to put on the suit and tie. So think about the location and then wear something suitable for it. Many restaurants will help by putting a “dress code” on their website.

#5. Nija Turtles T-shirt is out

If it’s really important to let you date know that you are into “80’s cartoons” then go ahead and wear that T-shirt.  If you’re not then you probably want to say away from things like this, as wearing it will make someone assume you are!

As with what we mentioned about wearing fashionable clothing.  If you’re really into it and you want them to know, then go ahead and wear it.  If you’re not. then don;t.

Also if you are into it, consider if you actually want to tone it down a little for your first date? Perhaps it would be best to introduce them to this on your 3rd or 4th date?

#6. Comfortable - doesn't mean the dirty joggers, make sure it is clean and looks nice

So yes we did say be comfortable, we didn't say be scruffy.  The dirty joggers in this example would definitely not go down well. Wear something that is clean, looks nice and definitely smells nice.

#7. Wear something that reflects you and reflects your personality

So you might be someone who’s personality comes out in what they wear.  For example, people who are out there and very confident, usually wear bold colours to show their extrovert personality.  Likewise people who are not self confident, tend to wear blacks, blues and greys.

So wear to suit your personality and you are already communicating with them (through your dress sense) even before you have spoken.  Make sure that first “glance” says all they need to know about you.  Make sure it is a great first impression!

#8. Ask friends for advice.

Ask friends (particularly those of the opposite sex) what you look good in and what they think you should wear. Take it all on board, after all its not going to do any harm. You could even put the outfit on quickly with them there and ask them to say the first three things that come into their mind when they see you. This then tells you what the first impression of you is. 

 

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Who should respond first after a date?

by richard 9. April 2016 07:00

So you have been on a great date, you thought the excitement before the date was big, but the excitement after a date can be even greater. If the date was good the curiosity about the other person is even bigger and that itself drives excitement about the connection. But how should you behave after the first date?  Who should make the first move? This insecurity it seems affects both men and women. Should we do things differently to the way our grandparents did? It would seem that our grandparents are perceived as doing things the right way!

#1. Women's thoughts

Many women still seem to remain passive and devote.  They do not want to come across “easy” or inadvertently seem “inviting” if they take the initiative to get in touch.  Some believe that it should always be the man who makes first contact after a date and rigidly stick to that belief.  If the man does not make the first move, then he hasn't “earned” a second date.

#2. Men's thoughts

Some men believe that it is their role to get in contact after the date.  Some may believe that if the women gets in touch first then she is “easy” and will say “yes” to anyone.  There are however a few which believe it is equal rights now and so the women can be the first to make contact.  A subset of theses believing that this actually shows they are conquering the man,

#3. Does it really matter

Does it really matter?  That is what you should ask yourself.  Does it matter who makes that first move as long as someone does?  Is it really worth sticking to those old “traditional” values if at the end of the day it means you will both possibly pass love by.  We think not.

Don't sit at your computer, biting your nails hoping that a message will come from your date.  Grab the opportunity yourself.  Write out a message that tells them how much you enjoyed the date (and yes I am talking to both men and women here) and press send, no hesitation, no worry.

Do you really want to be in a relationship where you have to worry about who makes the first move? Or if it is right to speak out of turn? etc.  The answer of course is no! So put the emphasis on being on the same level, respect being able to openly show your feelings.

The worst thing that could happen is that neither of you respond.  So you miss the opportunity and love passes you by. You don’t want that to happen, so write the message and press send.

#4. Final thought

Guys, although we are expressing equal rights here, there are some old fashioned values that you should keep since they will make your partner feel like a lady, for example:

#4.1. Always open a door for them and allow them through first.

#4.2. Walk on the road side of the pavement (so if a car goes through a puddle your the one to get wet!)

#4.3. Shower them with compliments!

 

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I don't want to be alone any more!

by richard 2. April 2016 07:00

Forever alone?  Want to change?

Most people fear being alone and yearn for love, yet they get stuck in a single life, repeatedly fail in their relationships and are permanently single.  So how do you reverse the tide? They want closeness, but if it is there, it’s too much.

One obstacle if you are finding people to start a relationship with, could be the fear of commitment and yes it is a real feel.  Here are the possible “roots” of this fear:

#1. Causes

Its common in people who have a commitment fear that the desire for a partnership does not outweigh the fear of failure. They suffer badly with a lack of self-esteem, they fear not satisfying their partner and being left alone again.

You find that people with low self esteem cannot tolerate rejection and are easily hurt or offended. They cannot imagine that someone could love them just as they are and they worry that they will never be the someone that they IMAGINE (note the deliberate highlighting of that word) their partner would want them to be.  So they either become very over protective or flee from the relationship all together.

#2. Avoidance strategies

People who suffer with commitment issues usually develop avoidance strategy.  The strategy is to not get into a situation that means you might have to commit.  It might mean that you even avoid dating full stop (which means of course you are never going to fall in love), here are a few examples of people deploying the avoidance strategy:

#2.1. You don’t have the time to date - when of course the reality is that they could turn the TV off one night and go for a date instead! Or they could leave work slightly earlier one night and go for a drink. Does logging on to an online dating service really take that much time?

#2.2. They prioritise work over love - saying their career is important, or they must stay late to get something done, when reality is that even the busiest of people can find time if they want to. No one can honestly be busy 24/7.

#2.3. I fall in love with the “wrong” people - This is a very common excuse. But ask anyone who is married if they ever dated someone who was the “wrong” person and the majority of them will say “yes”. It’s part of the course of finding someone you do want to settle down with.  If you don’t date someone who is “wrong” how do you know when you meet someone who is “right”.

All of these excuses just hide the real problem. The real problem is “you”.  You are the problem because you have commitment phobia.  So you need to deal with it if you are going to settle down.

#3. Look at yourself and your anti commitment schemes

The only real way to deal with it is to firstly accept and recognise that you have a commitment issue and you have a strong bond with the fear of failing. This is not easy of course as you are admitting that your self-esteem is low and that you are covering up deeper issues.

You need to tell yourself each day that you are a good person, that you have good qualities and you are a good “catch”.  Believe in yourself and slowly but surely your self-esteem should build.

Then spot these commitment cover ups and deal with them head on, don’t make excuses not to date and never fear failure. Its a simple fact that not all relationships can work and not all will.  However, live with the believe that over time you will find one that does work and trust us, when it does it will feel fantastic and will make your life complete.

Overall remember that in order to love someone else you have to love yourself first.

 

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I work shifts and can’t find the time to date!

by richard 26. March 2016 07:00

We can understand this issue if you were using the traditional dating methods.  There are not going to be too many people in bars looking for love at 7am when your shift finishes or before 5pm when your shift starts.

This is one group of people that internet dating serves really well as it fits in and around your life.  If you are a shift worker these are our top tips to still find love online.

#1. Mention the fact you work shifts in your profile

We recommend that you work shifts in your profile so that anyone who you contact, or who contacts you knows that they might receive messages at odd times. This means that someone isn't going to think you are intentionally ignoring you if they send you a message at 5pm and don’t get a response that evening.

However, don’t make a big thing of it.  Don’t whine about not being able to find love because you work unsociable hours. You will just come across like someone who likes to moan and make excuses.  Just a simple could of lines explaining your shift working is all it needs!

#2. Make sure you do reply

So you might be replying at odd times but make sure you do reply.  Most online dating sites have mobile applications, but we don’t think you should use these for messages as it can be difficult to type and difficult to check grammar and spelling.

We would suggest you reply once you get home if you feel awake enough or once you have had a sleep after getting in.  Perhaps you might want to reply at the same time every day so that it becomes a routine that you wont forget.

But do reply, otherwise it could be a very long time until they get a response and although they should know that might be the case from you mentioning it on your profile.  Longer than 24/36 hours for a response is unacceptable.

#3. Only reply when you are not tired

The problem with most shift workers is that they will be so desperate to reply, that they often respond when they have just got in and are very tired!  Avoid this by taking your sleep first and then replying.

#4. Arranging a date

Arranging a date can be difficult, but the person you are meeting should understand this.  If you 

can’t make a date/time as you are working, be the first one to suggest an alternative date/time, don’t just respond with “I can’t do that date”.

As long as you show willing to see them they will understand.  Obviously the best time to have that date would be on one of your days off so your not too tired.

So there you have it. No longer can you use the excuse that your shift work gets in the way of dating! Get online and find love.

 

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I don’t have the time to date!

by richard 13. January 2016 09:00

It is a popular and all too common reason for why people say they are single.  It is if you like the easy way out! We have run several surveys now to find out the truth and the reality is that most people do have the time to date.

In the world of internet dating it’s so much easier and quicker to date that there really is no excuse. So here is a good plan to adopt if you think this applies to you.

#1. Find the time

We all say we have a busy, hectic life.  But when push comes to shove there is time there to use, you just have to want to find it.

For example if I told you now that a close family member had just been rushed into hospital.  Would you be able to find time to see her in the next couple of days? Of course you would.

We can all miss a TV programme in the evening, or stop scrolling Facebook when were bored, or get up earlier at the weekend. All you need to find is an initial 1 hour to fill out your profile and a further 30 minutes every other day to search profiles, send and read messages.

Oh I almost forgot to mention that all dating sites are mobile and tablet optimised so you can even do a great deal on the train on the way to work or at lunchtime.

#2. Regular routine

Once you have found that slot then make it a regular routine to use that time to log on to your online dating account. We do recommend that you log on regularly as it will mean your profile appears at the top of search results as you will be classed as an “active” user.

#3. Finding time for the date

Now trust us on this one, if you really like the person you have met online you will find the time for a date, it really is as simple as that. Why wouldn’t you give some time to a date, it could be the start of something really good.

Even if things don’t work out there is a very good chance that you will still have lots of fun and enjoy the evening. I mean the decision between sitting in watching EastEnders (which you can see again on iPlayer!) and going out for a nice meal with good company. I know which I would choose!

So there you have it. No longer use the excuse that you don’t have enough time to date. Go on get your profile up and start enjoying the experience of meeting your soulmate. 

 

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